It’s not even people being offended that creates the rules a lot of the time. If you don’t have strict and clear cut rules, it’s going to eat up a ton of mod time trying to keep our trolls and people asking the same things repeatedly in bad faith. I liked the split that was on Reddit between an asktransgender group and the groups meant for community.

For me though, I’ve just never wanted to be in that particular kind of place as a trans person. It takes a lot of energy to constantly answer the unintentionally offensive and invasive questions from all the people in your family, job, and just general day to day life. It’s hard to find people who consistently can and want to give time to helping slowly warm people up to the same basic facts that they could find on their own.