I’m not a parent, but I have much empathy for your predicament. You have the right to question this stuff, and learn about it, and decide how to handle it, without being judged. But, as others have said, I seriously doubt you’ll find that on social media, which for this issue is so politicized as to be utterly useless. It sounds like you could use a support group.

There might be a few resources on Substack:

• www.thestoicmom.com - I saved this a few months ago after seeing a link to it.
• pitt.substack.com - I know practically nothing about this one, but when I test-joined the above just now, Substack recommended it. I do see some anti-trans shitposts in the comments though.

For the Stoic Mom project, its perspective is the philosophy of Stoicism (so, she has that background), but she also has a trans daughter and appears to do consultations.

You might also consider contacting Conor Friedersdorf of The Atlantic, who wrote about this and is very well respected. Maybe he’d tell you which support groups he spoke to? You could also try to contact this woman, although I’m not sure how. Both are admittedly long shots.

Good luck.