Allero
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- Comment on ‘I realised I’d been ChatGPT-ed into bed’: how ‘Chatfishing’ made finding love on dating apps even weirder 3 weeks ago:
Everyone is attractive to someone, not necessarily by the looks, but by the spirit, character, and a personal charm.
The problem is dating apps and how they shaped our dating sphere overall.
Aside from intentionally picking mediocre partners with algorithms so you could never find a date and stay there forever, generating profits, the very structure of dating apps is super wrong.
What do you see on most of them? A big photo and a tiny bit of text, which for most people ends up very generic. But looks is only one small part of the picture, and one that doesn’t ultimately decide the fate of relationships for most people. It is exactly that text part that matters, and it cannot be a one-liner.
To get to know someone, you have to talk, interact, and this very interaction is what breathes life into relationships and makes a date an actual date, and not just an evening stroll.
I am certain you know something that will be interesting, amusing, funny to someone, that some people out there would love you as a partner. But, for the love of God, do not look for that someone on dating apps. You’re wasting your time and confidence in a loop designed to have you do just that.
Oh and - it is great that you don’t have several dates a week. This fucks up so bad with the very idea of romance. Relationships are not bargaining chips and not scores to make track of. When you “date” like you choose your new jacket, all the magic and butterflies are gone.
You’re good, don’t screw yourself up and you’ll be golden. Speaking as someone with mid looks and personality and a lot of social awkwardness, while being in healthy long relationships with adorable partner.
- Comment on Japanese researchers broke the fiber transmission record with 1.02 petabits per second 3 months ago:
Speeding up the Internet will speed up Tor as well.
- Comment on Harassed by Assassin’s Creed gamers, a professor fought back with kindness 5 months ago:
This story is all you need to know about Internet negativity. People tend to forget that those on the other end are very real, with their own knowledge and feeling and everything. The second the discussion gets more personal, the second you remember human, it’s all gone.
- Comment on 4chan Is Dead. Its Toxic Legacy Is Everywhere 6 months ago:
A typical 4chan user is very concerned about privacy, because it’s a place they do stuff they wouldn’t do elsewhere.
Once a trust is broken, it is very hard to regain. Technically, nothing stops it from appearing again. But will the userbase follow?
- Comment on Inside arXiv—the Most Transformative Platform in All of Science 7 months ago:
Fair!
- Comment on UN Database WIPO ALERT Helps to Facilitate Globalized Pirate Site Blocking 7 months ago:
You know what to do. Raise the black flag.
- Comment on Inside arXiv—the Most Transformative Platform in All of Science 7 months ago:
The most transformative is probably SciHub. If we ever lose it, scientific progress in most fields will grind to a halt.
arXiv is great, but the fact it only covers physics/math and, well, the fact it’s preprints significantly affects its scope.
Should we at least have it cover all of academia, it would already be more viable.
- Comment on WordPress Forces Users to Agree That Pineapple Is Good on Pizza 10 months ago:
Not when this happens to a serious project affecting millions of people.
- Comment on Wikipedia is under assault: rogue users keep posting AI generated nonsense 1 year ago:
Thanks for additional info!
That’s interesting, actually. I can’t see why Russia the state would be interested in this (it already has issues accessing certain sources, so messing with a free open library is shooting one’s foot), so it’s either truly for the lulz (which are probably the most questionable lulz in history), or there’s some truly mastermind plot behind this.
- Comment on Wikipedia is under assault: rogue users keep posting AI generated nonsense 1 year ago:
Is there any indication they come from Russia?