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Oyster_Lust@lemmy.world ⁨11⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

This is exactly the kind of thing I’m talking about. I’m looking for genuine help and I get accused of being dishonest or hateful.

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Tywele@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨11⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
What do you need help with?

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- Oyster_Lust@lemmy.world ⁨11⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
  I need to find a community of family members and/or psychologists who have found success (or failure) in dealing with this issue. I’m not trying to say that it’s good or bad. My child is struggling and I can’t seem to find objective help. It all seems political and unhelpful.
  
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  - Catoblepas@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨11⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
    The only thing your child needs if they have gender dysphoria is love and support. Period. If they are asking for a name change or pronoun change, listen to them. If they are asking for hormone blockers or hormones and that scares you, get therapy. Actually get therapy with a therapist knowledgeable about LGBT issues anyway, because you need someone to keep you from inadvertently traumatizing your child.
    
    This isn’t a dig at you, this is true of any parent of a trans kid. I am that kid ~25 years down the road and I am legitimately lucky to be alive after dealing with gender dysphoria by myself and surviving a suicide attempt as a teen.
    
    I encourage you to read this Scientific American article that goes into detail on all the evidence about what support (or lack of it) does for trans youth.
    
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echo64@lemmy.world ⁨11⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
You’re looking for help that fits your ideologies. Otherwise, you would be seeking the kind of help everyone else looks for.

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- Oyster_Lust@lemmy.world ⁨11⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
  No! I’m trying to avoid ideology and find practicality. I’m looking for a community of family members that have dealt with this, so I can have an honest discussion. Nonody here knows anything about my child except the gender dysphoria that I mentioned, yet so many are telling me what I need to do and what my motives are.
  
  I’m looking for the exact opposite of what I’m finding here. There is no " one size fits all" approach because everyone is different. I’d like to be able to talk to family members and find ones whose child has had other similar issues and find out what has and hasn’t helped.
  
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