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• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨CISA broke into US federal agency, wasn't spotted for months⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  The team found a password file left from a previous employee on an open, administrative IT share, which contained plaintext usernames and passwords for several privileged service accounts

  That’s not going to be a fun meeting.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Mozilla Drops Onerep After CEO Admits to Running People-Search Networks⁩ ⁨⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Does this count as Milkshake Duck?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Users ditch Glassdoor, stunned by site adding real names without consent⁩ ⁨⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I’m a permanent EU resident who was not at the time I left a glass door review. Anyone know if the GDPR would apply?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Dragon's Dogma 2 cooking features "real meat" - does that mean vegans shouldn't play it?⁩ ⁨⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I’m vegan, and there are varying layers of seriousness to which people take being vegan. The goal is generally to avoid exploitation of animals wherever practicable. But I work at a bakery, if there’s extra cheese sticks that we will not profit off of, that will either be wasted at the night or I can grab them, are they “vegan”?

  Some would say yes, some no, and some will say that I can’t work at a non-vegan bakery while being a vegan. Those are also all fair options, I’m not annoyed with people who think the last one, I just wish I could avoid it fully. (I tend to grab stuff for my omnivorous husband, but not myself, which some vegans would also have a problem with, and I try to sneak one or two things to set neatly outside in case anyone is hungry, which doesn’t go far enough for most people)

  The problem behind this game for more dedicated vegans is not arising out of this game, but probably out of beyond meat (possibly a competitor), which used lots of real meat for side by side taste tests. Some agree with you that a finite use can essentially be washed off a product with enough time (and given that we’d have to start without the technology of knives, if we’re being 100% pure about no exploitation in the development history, to a certain degree, everyone believes this), but some think that because the company exists and profits because of animal suffering (which is objectively true), it can never be vegan.

  I think it’s basically the same problem, except that I would not believe that a single person purchased the game because of the meat scenes. This makes it an even more frivolous use of meat, but also removes the profit motive for the meat, so I can see lots of different positions where vegans could find themselves.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Cat and poop⁩ ⁨⁨11⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  That’s a huge dump for his size

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I want to talk in an American accent but how can I transition into it slowly for people who know me without them noticing a sudden change?⁩ ⁨⁨11⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Thank you, that’s really sweet!

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I want to talk in an American accent but how can I transition into it slowly for people who know me without them noticing a sudden change?⁩ ⁨⁨11⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  No, it’s not. I don’t think calling them bizarre is going to help the situation though.

  I think it’s probably more to stand out in a cool way, but it’s still not going to happen like this. The problem with “cool” is that it’s nebulous and there’s no formula for it. I would not be able to be cool while obviously faking an accent, but someone who’s really cool might still be able to pull it off. Hell, I have a genuine American accent in another country (a pretty light one) and I can’t embrace it enough for it to be cool.

  What’s really hard to learn is that OP’s not going to be cool until OP is cool with themselves, and that’s difficult to do when surrounded by people who don’t think you’re cool. That’s why most people get cooler when they leave high school, and that’s also why people tend to get nicer.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I want to talk in an American accent but how can I transition into it slowly for people who know me without them noticing a sudden change?⁩ ⁨⁨11⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  OP sounds young. Kids are weird, but this is harmless and they’re clearly embarrassed about it.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How to stop thinking about an interaction from my past?⁩ ⁨⁨11⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I’m glad to see you’ve mastered your responses.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How to stop thinking about an interaction from my past?⁩ ⁨⁨11⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I’m not trying to shit down your throat, but trying to use kinder words than the other person (I might have failed) to explain why it’s not an ideal comment to leave there.

  I’m not saying it’s bad advice, but people generally have emotional responses to what others say. That’s why delicacy is important- if you say the right thing the wrong way it can make the other person less receptive to the idea as a whole.

  Of course this is within their control and you’re not responsible for their emotional reactions, but it’s also a pretty consistent, predictable reaction, so being aware of it and accommodating it is a good idea if you want your words to sink in.

  There is also the critique that stoicism makes you more easily exploited, if you come to it without assertiveness already well established. In the OP’s case, telling someone who has wrongfully beaten themselves up for years about an interaction where the other person was cruel to them for no reason, that they’re actually the one at fault, is unlikely to provoke a thorough consideration of stoicism. It’ll either lead to them dismissing you and your ideas, or it will lead to them continuing to beat themselves up.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How to stop thinking about an interaction from my past?⁩ ⁨⁨11⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I’m not the other person, but it does have real “maybe it was god’s plan for your kid to die” energy. It can be helpful for people, but it can also shut people down. That’s not a bad thing, people benefit from having strong reactions to feeling insulted, as the OP shows. Sometimes it’s smarter to shield yourself from more insults than to accept feedback from any source.