By using you or that person there.
Also fuck you
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vacuumoftalent@lemmy.world 11 months agoIn California there’s a lot of people that look like her whether they be biologically male or female and say their pronouns are he/him, so how are servers expected to juggle the different preferences?
Skullgrid@lemmy.world 11 months ago
LinkOpensChest_wav@lemmy.one 11 months ago
I was a server, and this was never a problem and isn’t even a potential problem. I can’t even think of a time when I had to use someone’s third-person pronouns. You’re trying to create outrage over a problem that only exists inside the minds of bigots.
DerisionConsulting@lemmy.ca 11 months ago
When in doubt, just don’t use pronouns or any terms referring to gender. Using the word “you” is pretty safe, especially when there is only one person at the table. When the server is talking to back of house, they generally refer to people by table. The cooks don’t know or care who’s actually eating the food, they just know the ticket/table number.