I tend to respond in a tone I’m addressed with, but I am trying to do better.
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Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world 9 months ago
Sounds like someone’s salty that they can’t go back and return the favor.
Ironically, your post made me curious as to what you said to get downvoted, so I went through and read your dumb comments. I didn’t see anything that looked like a positive contribution to the site, just you getting angry at anyone who doesn’t agree with you.
gedaliyah@lemmy.world 9 months ago
LemmyKnowsBest@lemmy.world 9 months ago
try this instead. When someone insults you or says something to make you angry, reply with something sickeningly sweet and loving. Trust me. It’s a powerful weapon. kill them with kindness. More often than that it has the effect of silencing them because it neutralizes their vitriol like pouring water on a fire.
Use any of these:
I love you ❤️
You are loved.
Have a blissful day.
bionicjoey@lemmy.ca 9 months ago
Personally I’m not a fan of this approach because you don’t really believe what you’re saying to them, it’s more just being passive-aggressive/sarcastic.
My preferred approach is to try to understand someone’s position and trying to wrap my head around the fundamental disagreement between us. That’s assuming of course that I’m in the right headspace; I’m not immune to getting caught up in online toxicity.
businessfish@lemmy.blahaj.zone 9 months ago
it sounds so stupid and the first time I did it I felt a little silly, but doing this really works. anyone who is angry with you (without a good reason at least) has no idea how to respond given genuine kindness in response to an attack. plus it’s nice to be a positive voice in the world, and I’m sure many people who are angry on the internet could benefit from being told that they matter and are loved :)
Hamartiogonic@sopuli.xyz 9 months ago
Also, try sending some flowers.
💐
LemmyKnowsBest@lemmy.world 9 months ago
Because all internet strangers know each other’s home addresses.
nevemsenki@lemmy.world 9 months ago
That or mailbombs.
bionicjoey@lemmy.ca 9 months ago
Lol with the amount of downvotes OP gets, how would they be able to tell if one person went through and downvotes all their posts?