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LemmyKnowsBest@lemmy.world ⁨11⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

try this instead. When someone insults you or says something to make you angry, reply with something sickeningly sweet and loving. Trust me. It’s a powerful weapon. kill them with kindness. More often than that it has the effect of silencing them because it neutralizes their vitriol like pouring water on a fire.

Use any of these:

I love you ❤️

You are loved.

Have a blissful day.

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bionicjoey@lemmy.ca ⁨11⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
Personally I’m not a fan of this approach because you don’t really believe what you’re saying to them, it’s more just being passive-aggressive/sarcastic.

My preferred approach is to try to understand someone’s position and trying to wrap my head around the fundamental disagreement between us. That’s assuming of course that I’m in the right headspace; I’m not immune to getting caught up in online toxicity.

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- LemmyKnowsBest@lemmy.world ⁨11⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
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  - bionicjoey@lemmy.ca ⁨11⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
    
    the recipient of the message interprets it in a loving way because it’s probably exactly what they need to hear that no one ever tells them.
    
    Do you have any proof of this or is it just something you want to believe is true? Because honestly I find it hard to believe.
    
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    LemmyKnowsBest@lemmy.world ⁨11⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
    Yes I’ve been that person before. And I’ve ended internet arguments with it from the other end as well. I’ve seen it work. And I’ve felt it work.
    
    granted it’s not always successful, and if you hate it so much then it probably won’t work coming from either end for you, so whatever.
    
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businessfish@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨11⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
it sounds so stupid and the first time I did it I felt a little silly, but doing this really works. anyone who is angry with you (without a good reason at least) has no idea how to respond given genuine kindness in response to an attack. plus it’s nice to be a positive voice in the world, and I’m sure many people who are angry on the internet could benefit from being told that they matter and are loved :)

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Hamartiogonic@sopuli.xyz ⁨11⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
Also, try sending some flowers.

💐

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- LemmyKnowsBest@lemmy.world ⁨11⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
  Because all internet strangers know each other’s home addresses.
  
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  - Hamartiogonic@sopuli.xyz ⁨11⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
    There’s no place like 127.0.0.1
    
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- nevemsenki@lemmy.world ⁨11⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
  That or mailbombs.
  
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