This is true but easier said than done.
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RedditWanderer@lemmy.world 2 years ago
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Mothra@mander.xyz 2 years ago
RedditWanderer@lemmy.world 2 years ago
Agreed. But he didn’t say anything about it being easy!
Catoblepas@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 years ago
I would want to shit down the throat of anyone who said that to me immediately after I shared an upsetting memory that had bothered me for years.
RedditWanderer@lemmy.world 2 years ago
You sound like a great person.
It just means that resolving that issue starts with yourself. Grow up.
idiomaddict@feddit.de 2 years ago
I’m not the other person, but it does have real “maybe it was god’s plan for your kid to die” energy. It can be helpful for people, but it can also shut people down. That’s not a bad thing, people benefit from having strong reactions to feeling insulted, as the OP shows. Sometimes it’s smarter to shield yourself from more insults than to accept feedback from any source.
RedditWanderer@lemmy.world 2 years ago
“Maybe it was god’s plan for your kid to die”.
How does that have anything to do with your estimate of something. I watched both my parents die, and I definitely don’t blame god. I didn’t change the estimate of those situations by pretending I was happy my parents were dead. I did it by thinking they lived a full life and they aren’t sad they are dead.
It says you have the power to change your estimate of the situation, it doesn’t say how, how fast or how difficult it should be.
Catoblepas@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 years ago
Maybe that perspective is unnecessary, unempathetic, and unrealistic. 🤷♂️
RedditWanderer@lemmy.world 2 years ago
Not my fault you don’t understand what those words mean. If only there was an emoji for them.